Jay Rebert LMFT

When I was 14, my mother began her illness into Alzheimer's. In those days, there wasn't a term for this. All we knew is that she grew extremely irritable and aggressive. It's hard to watch this and not understand. Hence began my studies of psychology.

I want to hear what brought you to therapy. Many folks say they "don't know where to start", but that's part of my job is to help you connect the dots, make sense of things, and express your emotions that create that feeling of being stuck. There's really no right or wrong way to begin.

Sometimes there's a concrete goal, whether it be a job, school, or relationship changing. Other times, it's a sense that you have a "handle" on things. Changes might not be perfect, but you feel back in charge of yourself.

• California, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, 40170

Having done counseling and therapy for 25 years, I use many different techniques. I gravitate to DBT (dialectical behavior therapy) because it focuses on good judgment and balance in life. It's hard to be happy, when you're off balance! Most of my suggestions are usually specific, behavioral, and achievable! Sometimes that very small homework assignment is the nudge people need. I find this works with individuals and couples. Finally, people just need to be heard without judgment.