Dr. Tom Murray LCMHC, LMFT

Clients who choose me for their relationship consultation choose me to be an advocate for their relationship. Therefore, I'm neither partner's individual advocate. I must be free to provide direct feedback that's straight to the point, no beating around the bush, and, yes, even the occasional karate-chop-to-the-throat. In other words, think of me as a coach to elite athletes. My success depends on your success. You're here to make the most out of our time together. You want to achieve greatness, and I want to help you get there. Consequently, I provide you direct feedback, in real time, for you to correct course and employ new, more effective strategies.

• North Carolina, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor, 5025
• North Carolina, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, 1101
• Pennsylvania, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, MF000413
• Florida, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, 3251
• Oregon, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, T1811

Dr. Tom Murray, an international trainer, educator, and couples and sex therapist, is a widely sought-after expert in sexuality and intimate relationships. He authored the 2022 book, Making Nice with Naughty: An intimacy guide for the rule-following, organized, perfectionist, practical, and color-within-the-line types. For 20+ years, Murray has worked with everyday folks to embrace their weirdness, shed labels and shame, lean into anxiety, and build better and stronger relationships. Murray’s doctorate is in marriage and family counseling from the University of Florida. Clinically, he combines a pull-no-punches, no-beating-around-the-bush style. His integrated therapy approach has helped folks quiet the mind-chatter that interferes with happiness, intimacy, and quality sexual relationships. Dr. Murray has appeared in numerous venues, including the Huffington Post and The Daily Mail, as well as radio, television and podcasts, including the Practice of Being Seen and Shrink Rap Radio. He’s a highly acclaimed presenter at local, regional, and national conferences on various mental health and relationship topics. Dr. Murray has published numerous articles in professional journals and has had faculty affiliations with UNC Greensboro, Walden University, Lindsey Wilson College, Northwestern University’s Family Institute, the Modern Sex Therapy Institute, and Adler University. In addition to his couples and sex therapy practice, Dr. Murray is passionate about Highly Sensitive Persons, artists, actors, dancers, musicians, and other creative types. With nearly a decade of experience as the director of a counseling center for one of the premier art conservatories in the nation, Dr. Murray integrates knowledge from business, positive psychology, sports psychology, mindfulness, and performance optimization to manifest creative aspirations. Dr. Murray lives in Greensboro, NC, along with his two sons. In addition to his strong passion for sex-positive, clinical practice, and advocacy, Dr. Murray enjoys writing jokes, taking comedy improv courses, cooking and baking, singing, and participating in his faith community.