Elizabeth Villella

Licensed Associate Professional Counselor|Clinically Supervised

The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans. This book was recommended to me by a supervisor for me to read the first time I got a client in a verbally abusive relationship and for me to recommend it to the client. Reading it was like opening Pandora's box. It made me realize I needed healing, which I did. It also made me realize how often other counselors or people can miss signs of verbal abuse, that I quickly pick up on. It led to me learning more and more through books, podcasts, and trainings until I (accidentally) specialized in trauma. I approach all clients now with a trauma-informed approach. That book not only influenced my approach, but it decided the specialty for my entire career, as well as influenced my personal life.

Either finances or fear. If it's finances because you don't have insurances then reach out. Sliding scale Telehealth in my own private practice has the most wiggle room. You can even text me directly on my business cell 210-281-1889. No, I am not going to ask for copies of bank statements or tax documents or ridiculous paperwork. I don't want someone going without mental health care because they can't afford 100 a session. Let's work together to see what you can afford. If it's fear then it's usually fear of the unknown, fear of being judged, or fear I will write down/report something that will get you into "trouble." If it's the last one please bring that up and I will go into detail on what I legally have to report in the first session plus discuss what I write to ease that anxiety. If it's fear of the unknown: the first session is going over paperwork, me asking questions, and deciding what to work on in therapy. No, you don't lay on the couch while I ask you how you feel. If I ask you something and you're not comfortable, then you can say that. If it is fear of being judged then know I won't judge you (unless you wear socks with flip-flops then I might judge you a tiny bit for that). I have tattoos and piercings. If you see me in person I will likely wear a dress similar to Ms. Frizzle, I have dresses with avocados, dinosaurs, etc. I frequent the rainbow district so I don't think anything can surprise me at this point, feel free to try though. Any other fears or concerns you may have, you are welcome to message me.

A client has to feel comfortable. This is necessary for them to be themselves, develop trust, explore their identity, work through trauma, and engage in many therapeutic tasks. If you're not comfortable, you're not going to want to share your innermost thoughts or feelings or trauma.