LYNDA MARTIN LMFT

One of the most profound lessons I've learned as a therapist is the nuanced nature of healing. Healing doesn’t mean the absence of hurt, being triggered, or losing control. Instead, it’s about learning to navigate these challenging emotions with compassion and empowerment. While this concept may seem straightforward, applying it in moments of imposter syndrome, depression, or when trauma resurfaces is incredibly challenging. In couples therapy, I've observed that conflicts often arise from two extremes: taking things either too personally or not personally enough. We sometimes believe we control or are responsible for our partner's emotions, which isn’t always the case. This misperception can lead to unnecessary conflict. True relationship strength lies in building communication and trust, allowing partners to express their genuine feelings – even if it's anger or frustration – and trusting that the relationship can endure these challenges. Disagreements don't have to lead to complete disconnection. Repair and moving forward with care are possible, though it may seem daunting in the heat of an argument. These insights, while simple in theory, require deep understanding and practice to apply effectively in both personal and professional relationships

• New York, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, 001387
• New Jersey, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, 37FI00225400

Before embarking on my journey as a therapist, I immersed myself in the world of early childhood, working as a preschool teacher and in early intervention and ABA therapy. Initially, I envisioned a future in family and child therapy. However, my career path took a surprising turn after graduate school when I discovered a profound interest in couples therapy – a field that I had once viewed with hesitation. Now, with over a decade of experience, I find immense satisfaction in working primarily with couples. My focus lies in addressing the effects of early childhood neglect or trauma on self-perception and attachment, both to the self and to others. I am particularly drawn to helping individuals who, despite outward success and charisma, struggle with emotional confusion and relationship dynamics. My clients often experience a deep sense of love but feel inadequate in their connections or lost in their own thoughts, finding it challenging to stay present in their personal and professional lives. For seven years, I worked with Fresh Path, gaining invaluable experience and insights. This journey led me to establish Attached, a small group practice that I now own. While Fresh Path and Attached operate independently, they share an unofficial sister practice bond. In my current role, I am thrilled to be shaping a practice focused on families and relationships in all their diversity, creating a space where both clinicians and clients embark on a journey to uncover their true selves.