I use a "miracle question" to help clients visualize what they want from therapy and for their lives. Through the use of imagination, clients can readily define what they are coming to therapy to achieve. This process provides both the client and the therapist a roadmap to work toward and hopefully reach what most matters to the client.
"Love's Executioner" is a book by psychiatrist Irvin Yalom. In it, he stresses the importance of loving your clients, as the most instrumental practice for being successful as a therapist. This book so resonated with me when I was first practicing as a therapist, because my personal philosophy involves loving and accepting people 'where they are.' In truth, this can be difficult if you encounter a client who somehow rubs you the wrong way, or who has perhaps violated some of your own personal standards or beliefs. I have found, however, that I have rarely had to refer a client to a different therapist due to my personal or ethical issues with them. Instead, my own capacity to love has grown through recognizing the aspects of humanness we all share and the recognition that one's personal history and experiences have shaped them in sometimes distressing ways. Ultimately, most all of us want to love and be loved.
My approach with new clients is to primarily be a good listener. I ask why they have come to therapy, and allow them time to express their primary concerns. I try to provide a very open and easy atmosphere to begin to develop a sense of safety and acceptance. I usually ask some general questions to assess any history of previous therapy, medications, what supports they have, what they have tried, and whether or not there's any history of suicidal thoughts or behaviors. I invite the client to ask me any questions they have about me or my approach. Finally, I acknowledge the courage it takes to begin therapy, and offer some general ideas about what shape our work together may take.
Aging related concerns
Divorce & separation
Young Adults (18-24)
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
Strength Based Therapy
Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy
Emotional Freedom Techniques, Stress Management, Rational Emotive Therapy, Bipolar Disorders, Motivational Interviewing, Cultural Awareness/Competency
VA, LPC, 0701003149
Master of Science, Counseling
Initially licensed in 2001, I have worked as a counselor in public schools, colleges, non-profit agencies, and in private practice. I've served as a mentor, supervisor, and clinical director in several settings, which has afforded me a rich opportunity to expand my understanding and knowledge of the therapeutic relationship. That relationship is fundamental to developing a productive connection with clients. My 'niche' has become working with issues of depression and anxiety, which are the two most frequent issues in mental health. I also enjoy working with couples to improve communication and strengthen a sense of connection.
Remote Therapy, Virginia Beach, 23451, VA