Elizabeth Murdock

LPC

I use a "miracle question" to help clients visualize what they want from therapy and for their lives. Through the use of imagination, clients can readily define what they are coming to therapy to achieve. This process provides both the client and the therapist a roadmap to work toward and hopefully reach what most matters to the client.

"Love's Executioner" is a book by psychiatrist Irvin Yalom. In it, he stresses the importance of loving your clients, as the most instrumental practice for being successful as a therapist. This book so resonated with me when I was first practicing as a therapist, because my personal philosophy involves loving and accepting people 'where they are.' In truth, this can be difficult if you encounter a client who somehow rubs you the wrong way, or who has perhaps violated some of your own personal standards or beliefs. I have found, however, that I have rarely had to refer a client to a different therapist due to my personal or ethical issues with them. Instead, my own capacity to love has grown through recognizing the aspects of humanness we all share and the recognition that one's personal history and experiences have shaped them in sometimes distressing ways. Ultimately, most all of us want to love and be loved.

My approach with new clients is to primarily be a good listener. I ask why they have come to therapy, and allow them time to express their primary concerns. I try to provide a very open and easy atmosphere to begin to develop a sense of safety and acceptance. I usually ask some general questions to assess any history of previous therapy, medications, what supports they have, what they have tried, and whether or not there's any history of suicidal thoughts or behaviors. I invite the client to ask me any questions they have about me or my approach. Finally, I acknowledge the courage it takes to begin therapy, and offer some general ideas about what shape our work together may take.